Sunday, October 3, 2010

The business of babies

I have lost count of the number of times we have been asked the question, "so how many kids do you guys want?" Brian loves answering this question and usually his answer is not the truth but he is secretly poking fun at someone asking a personal question :D

Now that we have Sydney the family dynamics have changed and more questions arise.
Will we adopt again? Will I bear any more children? Does this change our outlook on the number of kids?

Firstly, let me tell you that when we announced we were welcoming our 5th through adoption we were posed with the question by a family member, "How many *** ****ed kids do you think you need?" Brian so cooly answered, "We do it one at a time." That has truly been our philosophy, slow and steady wins the race, right?
We are not sure that I will ever have the opportunity to bear another baby. We did decide that now we have Sydney it doesn't matter if we ever get pregnant again. I asked Heavenly Father for the chance to grow a baby and was blessed with Sydney. After a 7 year wait we are not going to keep our fingers crossed for another, but if we are blessed again, it is just that, a blessing :)

With that being said, I would love another boy, I feel so bad for Parker, and honestly he has been SO much fun! I love my girls don't get me wrong, but there is just something about his willingness to forgive, to not throw fits, and taking his consequences like a man that is refreshing! It also helps that he loves to play and is still willing to cuddle :D But we wouldn't say no to another girl either :D

Halle and Payton are already asking when I will have another baby in my belly. We told them that if we decide another baby is right for our family we will let them know but it might not come from my belly but could come from another belly. We have had the talk with the girls about them not growing in my belly but in another belly called a Birthmom ( a longer story I won't go into). Halle is very curious and asks all kinds of questions about it but Payton isn't so curious yet. At the beginning of the pregnancy the girls asked if, once Sydney was born if she would go on an airplane and live with another family, kind of like a baby swap?

With baby talk so abundant in our household it IS safe to say that no one really feels like our family is complete yet.

Let's just see what life has in store!


Jill said...

I used to get the question, "Don't you know what causes that?" Why, Yes I Do!!! I'm so impressed with your outlook. I'm grateful you were Laura's roommate so I could get to know you. You are an amazing woman!

The Nielson Clan said...

My kids' Godparents have 8 children! The oldest is I believe 22 or 23 and the youngest is only 8 months older than Kierra making her 3. When they get asked, they say..."We will stop when we have an ugly one." Basically stops the questioning right there because no one is brave enough to tell them they should stop...or ask any more questions to the fact. Just a humourous way to lighten those wonderfully personal questions.

Laura said...

I have started getting those types of questions. "Will you keep trying for a boy?" seems to be the most popular. Kasey always responds, "We're just trying to get this one here first. Then we'll worry about the future."

I love (read: hate) how when it comes to pregnancy and parenting people seem entitled to have an opinion on other people's lives. Having an opinion is one thing. Sharing it so openly with everyone is another.